Dear Tiel-Ash, I have been in a relationship for about 7 years now. I am 25 and my partner is 28. I am very perplexed as to why he has not popped the question yet. When ever friends ask, he simply replies "all in good time". I am under pressure from my family an friends and i do not know what to do. Does He Want To Marry Me?
Tiel-Ash Says....
If you are with a man who has no intention of ever getting married and starting a family, you really should end the relationship and move on. If your boyfriend has expressed an interest in starting a family at some point in the future, one thing you can do to expedite the process is to start bringing it up in casual conversation. You don't have to be obvious but you can talk about someone you know who was recently married or engaged.
Another approach would be to have conversations about your future. Start a conversation off by saying something like, "if we were to get married one day," and see how he reacts. Does he engage in the conversation or does he get uncomfortable and try to change the subject?
Communication is important but you want to avoid giving him an ultimatum. Telling him that the two of you are going to get married or it's over, will more than likely result in the end of the relationship. Some women also take the extreme approach of breaking up with their boyfriend and hoping that he will propose after he realizes how much he misses her. It's not a good idea to break up with your boyfriend unless you are prepared for the relationship to be over.
Another way to plant the seed of a proposal in his mind is to get some third-party help. Have a mutual friend ask him some questions about when and if he might ask you to marry him. Of course you don't want your friend to grill him and give him the third degree, you just want to plant the seed in his mind that marriage is the next logical step in the relationship.
While you are dating, try to be the best girlfriend you can be and continue to drop some subtle hints once in a while. Eventually he will get the message and if he does see a future with you, he will pop the question.
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